Why is Confidence Important in Meetings?
Confidence is a major component of how to boost your charisma. Demonstrating confidence is like showing up with the perfect outfit, in the right environment, for the right audience. People notice your outfit, you get lots of compliments, and you leave the event saying to yourself, “Man, I’m going to wear this again!”
Confidence is an attitude you should always put on. People make opinions of you based on what you say, when you say it, and how you say it. If you want people to take notice of you – keep reading to learn how to boost your charisma.
Can Confidence be Taught?
You betcha! CharismaQ evaluates and measures an individual’s charisma based on six components – our CharismaQ6. The components are first impression, message alignment, delivery, authenticity, empathy, and confidence. The cumulative confidence scores from our CharismaQ members are trending in some interesting directions based on gender, race, and age.
Research proves charisma can be taught and so can each one of the components.
So what is charisma? Charisma is the ability to attract, engage, motivate, and influence those around you. Your confidence is gained or lost by how others react to your presence.
- When you are in a meeting, are you engaged and listening when others speak?
- Do you speak at the right time?
- Do you speak with conviction?
- Can you see others are engaged when you speak?
- Are you building trust and influence during conversations?
Confidence is part of our CharismaQ6 component.
Three Tips that can Boost Your Charisma in Virtual Meetings
The book, How Women Rise by Marshall Goldsmith and Sally Helgesen identifies the following bad habits that can diminish your confidence.
- Don’t minimize your presence. When entering a room for an in-person meeting, take a prominent seat in the room, own your space, and never give it up for someone entering the room after you—even if they hold a higher position. Instead, make eye contact, smile, and be large and in charge.
- Don’t cheapen your contribution to the conversation. Picture it. You are in a big meeting with executives and other influential people. You are listening intently, you think to yourself, “I have an idea.” You decide to speak up. Don’t discount your idea by using words and phrases like “I could be wrong, but…”, or “I think” or “I might be way off base here, but…” Instead, try saying, “Your take on this topic is interesting, let me take it one step further.” If you do one simple thing, replace “I think” with “I know.” Own and believe in your ideas and thoughts. If you do, others will too.
- Don’t underestimate the power of delivery. You said it. Maybe you said it too softly. Maybe you said it in the form of a question. Your idea is lost in the ether. Your delivery is like a delicate feather floating in the air only to land on someone else’s Armani jacket. Now someone else says your idea with a louder voice and more conviction and suddenly everyone pays attention. You think to yourself, “Dammit. I just said that!”
Instead, take a minute to gather your thoughts before you speak then tell yourself this idea is going to knock their socks off, and then declare victory.
The bottom line of confidence and charisma is you have to believe in yourself.
You should be authentic and let go of the version you think others want you to be. Try telling a trusted colleague you’re working on your confidence and ask them to watch out for bad behavior. Then be willing to ask for some “clothes” so you never show up naked to a meeting.
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